In 2018, 7.8% of the total global deaths were due to suicide. But is escaping the only way?
Life rarely goes according to the elaborate plans that we mortals make.
Life is a bed of roses, only that the roses have thorns along with the petals and perfume.
But that is what makes life so beautiful – the imperfections and our continuous quest towards making things right. However, what matters is how you react when life throws hurdles at you. Do you duck, run away or fall and cry?
Let us look at it this way – When a train enters a tunnel, you do not jump out of it. Instead, you wait for the light at the end of the tunnel. Life is quite like a train journey – the pace, the occasional halts, and the hustle along with the quiet. And you can enjoy this journey only when you have the ticket for it – the ticket, as in essential life skills.
In what follows, I have tried to encapsulate a few life skills that can help you make a glass of lemonade and enjoy it when life gives you lemons.
Inculcating life skills isn’t anything like writing an assignment with the help of a few tricks. And when it comes to having zeal and passion, there are no hard and fast rules to play by. So, you have to find what lights the fire within you. For example, the face of my little daughter lights up in front of me every time I feel like giving up.
In the movie The Pursuit of Happyness, Will Smith’s Chris Gardner doesn’t lose the will to fight with an unpaid internship and the custody of a son. That is what you will have to search for to use adversity to your advantage.
Faith and Hope
“Remember Red, hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.”– Andy Dufresne, The Shawshank Redemption
As cliché as it may sound, you will always have to remember that the sun eventually rises to eradicate the darkness around. Like the sunflower, learn how to grow towards the light.
I know it’s easier said than done, but then most things are. And giving up isn’t an option. Learn to look at the bright side of things. For example, a surprise class test means an opportunity to know where you stand in the class.
Apart from being positive, trust yourself. Know that you can do it, whatever the situation may be. This will give you the mental strength to get up and work against all the odds and make your way towards a better life.
Focus and Determination
Remember Sports Day at school? Every time you participated in a flat race, what was your focus on – the finish line or the rocks and dust on the running tracks? So, you see, you need to focus on what you want your life to look like and keep at it.
Also, when you see adversities and challenges as windows for growth, you automatically stress on the lesson that awaits you down the road. If you want to learn to keep your eyes on the prize, click here for some fantastic tips on focus improvement.
Resilience and Tolerance of Pain
Life is like a plank – it is extremely hard to pull it off. But, after a few days when you overcome the muscle sprain and painful gut, your core strengthens. So, when stuck in the avalanche of life, be resilient. Only then will you find a way to breathe through the snow.
Now, endurance isn’t a skill that you can learn overnight. The next time you go through a tough season, know you are building strength to make it through challenging times. After a few trials, you will learn not only when to duck the bouncers but also how to hit home runs.
Lack of Self-pity
Do you know what does the word Sonder mean? It’s the feeling when you realise that there are thousands of others around you who are living vivid lives and facing adversities, just like YOU. Yes, there are so many others, who like you, are plastering smiles on their faces while living in their share of hell.
So, do not patronize or sympathize with yourself. If you feel sorry for yourself, stop right there. Moping isn’t going to help you. Also, think of so many others out there who have less than what you have. Be thankful for what you have and try to keep it safe. Here are some ways you can let go of self-pity for good.
Be it solving a difficult mathematic problem or sticking to a fitness routine; self-discipline can help you accomplish goals even when the road is bumpy. According to a 2013 study, people with better self-control were more capable of dealing with conflicts. When you cultivate self-discipline, you learn to make informed and rational decisions even at the face of adversity.
To stay consistent, remove temptations and distractions that digress you. Start by making small changes, like limiting your screen time or avoiding hitting the snooze button. At times, your heart will say otherwise. Do not let the devil on your shoulder win.
Patience and Perseverance
While in your way towards Zen, you are bound to fail several times. But you must be patient and pick yourself every time. Did you know that the famous scientist Thomas Edison had to face several rejections before it became a scientific breakthrough?
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Here is what the prodigy had to say when asked about dealing with setbacks in life – “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
So, even when the chances of luck are bleak, you must be patient. Don’t give up, and with time, you will improve slowly and steadily. And then when you will look back at things, you will see how you have evolved because you had kept pushing forward.
Life is beautiful, with all the trials and tribulations. Like a dollar found in the pocket of a pair of denim you haven’t worn in a long time or catching a toothless smile from a baby – life is about the little things. So, chuck the negativity and open the doors and windows of opportunity.
In the end, remember that you cannot master these life skills overnight. Give yourself time and be consistent. One day life will shine on you. And even if it doesn’t, you will know how to get over it.
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